Lead me to lead: a journey that starts within me

Taking advantage of the resting time that summer offers, I have dedicated part of my time to reading new books, and among them, I wish to highlight “Integrating life” by Nuria Chinchilla, Esther Jiménez and Pilar García-Lombardía, which helps us understand how to successfully lead professional and personal careers in a global world. And it does, as I like it, from a practical point of view. When reading it, I found it interesting to expose these ideas.

Many of us are witnesses, frequently, in our organizations of unpleasant experiences lived as a consequence of bad management.

The imbalances that many companies suffer are originated in the imbalances of those who lead them. They are people full of ego and extreme greed, people who think themselves extraordinary by the fact of carrying out an extraordinary charge and confuse responsibility with being.

So, if a manager does not build happiness for people around him, but generates unhappiness, and fails to emerge enthusiasm but is diminishing personal freedom, is a bad manager.

We all recognize the leader as the one we can trust because he is a mature person who knows how to respond to any situation by adequately organizing his own and others’ needs.


The complete leaders are mature people, with capacity for commitment, emotional stability and self-control. They do not pretend to be the center of attention, but they practice humility. They are discreet, but determined, silent but full of courage. They care about their employees and make them grow and develop in the company not only as professionals but as human beings.
So, first of all, a person to be able to manage well others has to know how to lead one self. And for this, we have to learn to self-govern internally and develop the character over our temperament, integrate well head and heart and have the courage to know ourselves, discover what are the cracks of our personality to balance it.


Only through the exercise of the will can we educate our character and be free, so that the environment does not dominate us but rather be we who dominate our lives and the circumstances of our surroundings.

According to this, it is inevitable to ask ourselves:

What virtues does a manager need to lead?


A manager to start self-governing himself and be able to lead others well, needs to develop some skills (positive habits that lead us to success in a certain function) that already classics called virtues.

There are four meta competences that make up the core of personal leadership and are basic to develop other skills: decision making, integrity, strength and emotional intelligence and which the classics coined with the name of cardinal virtues: prudence, justice, strength and temperance.  Let’s see how they correspond with each other and what they mean.


Prudence, which corresponds to decision-making because it consists of knowing how to make good decisions, it is to say, it consists in calibrating well the consequences before taking action.

Being able to select well the information that comes to us to choose what suits us best and that may not be what we wish, and thus avoid self-deceive.

Justice, which corresponds to integrity. The classics understood it as “giving each one what he deserves”.

It consists in assimilating such values ​​that take into account other people in our actions and in being integrated, that is, maintaining a coherence between what we do, think and say.

Strength, which in its outward or more masculine side consists of undertaking, proactivity and having initiative.

And that in its inward aspect or more feminine side consists of enduring well the blows, developing the self-control and the resilience.

– And finally the virtue of temperance, now corresponds to emotional intelligence.

It is about tempering the emotion where it overflows and, on the contrary, making it emerge where it is scarce.


I wish to share with you the link to the interview to Prof. PhD Nuria Chinchilla, professor of the Department of People Management in Organizations and, among others, holder of the Chair Carmina Roca and Rafael Pich-Aguilera of Women and Leadership of IESE Business School, where she explains very clearly how the virtues relate to the leadership skills that a manager must develop.

Enjoy it!